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WARNING: This Is Why Your Wife

...Doesn't Want To Have Sex With You. Yes, you did read that right, that's exactly what I said! We seem to spend an inordinate amount of time playing catch up, ticking off pointless tasks from the 'brain dump' To Do List. And the worst thing about all the chaos and rushing around? The level of intimacy in your marriage is shrinking like your proverbial in an ice bath. *****WARNING***** The following will not be pleasant reading for some of you. I know because I've been there too. --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 1. You're the 'Usain Bolt' of bedroom gymnastics! 9.58 seconds and it's all

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The ‘F’ Word

Fitness Freetime Focus Fatloss Freedom Fun Take your pick of which one of these you want more of. Maybe there's more than 1. Maybe it's all of them! A couple of days ago I Spoke to someone about my training programme. He explained to me why he wanted to be part of it, why he was the type of guy we have in our programme. He felt 'deflated' emotionally, yet 'inflated' physically. It's not a nice place to be in. But unfortunately, we can feel too proud to admit that something is wrong. That's a position I once found myself

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What Dollard, Dobb & Co Taught Me

When I was in college, I studied quite a few different subjects. Of course there was the standard Physical Education A Level you'd expect someone interested in sport and fitness to take. But alongside that, I studied sociology, psychology and also philosophy I loved social sciences, particularly psychology and the theory behind human behaviour. 'Why we think the things we do.' 'Do the things we do.' 'Or don't' on many occasions, 'Even when we know deep down we should!' I remember discussing the theory behind people that became aggressive because of frustration. It's actually called 'The Frustration/Aggression Hypothesis' and was proposed way back in 1930's by Dollard, Doob, Miller, Mower, and Sears. It goes some way to explain why some people get angry and confrontational when they are denied success

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Marshmallow Now Or A Bentley Later?

You can tell a lot about a person with just a simple marshmallow. How smart they're going to be, how successful they're going to be. Even how happy they're going to be. All with a simple Marshmallow. 2 Actually. More than 40 years ago, a psychologist called Walter Mischel explored the concept of self-control in children with a simple test, which came to be known as 'The Marshmallow Test'. Mischel and his colleagues presented children with a plate on which lay 1 marshmallow. The child was then told that the researcher had to leave the room for 15 minutes, but

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Can You Send Me More Information…

As you know, my emails can be pretty fiery. They can stir up some serious emotion in people. Usually after a particularly 'intense' email, (like the one coming next week...) i quite often get a direct response. As soon as i see the 'RE:[insert subject line], i know what's coming. Either, I'm getting some abuse because evidently i'm touched a nerve, so much so, the person has felt strongly enough to vent directly at me. If only they carried that same impassioned fire into achieving what it is they really wanted, they wouldn't be directing expletives at me via email, but anyway. Option 2 is less 'colourful', but no less frustrating. "I'm really interested in your programme,

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Your Most Precious Resource

When I sent out my email yesterday, I didn't realise how much it would resonate with so many of you. The hourglass was seen by many as a representation of Time. You may not realise it, but Time is your most precious resource. It can determine so much about you, what you can do. What you can't do. Yet we are quick to waste it on things and people we neither need nor want. And when we are short of Time, we panic, filling what we do have with pointless tasks, that serve no purpose for what we truly want. Choosing to finish one last thing in the office instead of heading home for quality

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